The Beauty of an Accepted, Secure, Significant Heart
Acceptance, Security, and Significance is the three legged stool that makes up our identity. My weakest "leg" is the one labeled significant. I look at my little ol’ life and see a stay at home mom who rarely gets regular showers, a crazy homeschooler who...
The Purpose of Significance
I’m really good at being busy for the Lord. And I know I’m not alone. Many years ago, I was Women's Ministry President, Children’s Ministry Director, and a Youth Sponsor—all at the same time. It was exhausting and in the midst of the busyness I realized I had...
Significance: what it is and what it’s not
I’m a pretty boring fruit person—I like the basics, at least that’s what I buy on a regular basis. Ido like mango, but my grocery doesn't stock the kind I like. I like kiwi fruit, but sometimes I forget to eat it. Have you ever felt a mushy kiwi? It’s kinda creepy....
What Security Can Do For You
I’m well acquainted with insecurity. It’s been a companion to Perfect for much of my life, and it lies dormant for a time. Then something happens that wakens the sleeping giant and insecurity becomes a driving force in my life. I’ve learned the triggers that bring...
Why you don’t need to be afraid anymore…
Every year, I avoided a certain appointment. I wanted to know about it, but I didn't want to be there for it. I panicked and my heart did funny things. My heart raced and I couldn't sleep for weeks leading up to the appointment. It consumed my waking thoughts and...
how to trade your insecurity for lasting security
Who am I? Who are you? The easy answer can be found on the ID we each carry around in our wallets, but the deeper answer is more difficult to flesh out. I know at my core I struggle with my identity. I look at myself in the mirror and see a woman staring back at me,...
confidence or confident?
Acceptance. It's what I long for, and it's what you long for. I also withhold it from others and myself and so do you. I've been wrestling with my acceptance in Christ because there's a part I play in it as well: I have to accept what God says. I can read his truth...
why yearning to belong is a gift and what you can do with it
Anyone who has played volleyball with me would agree: I spend more time ducking than I do spiking. They know I do not belong on any court involving a flying ball. I also don't belong on a debate room floor as I stumble over my words and respond emotionally rather than...
why rejecting ourself hurts and how to accept ourself
I've been avoiding this post. I've worked on other writing projects and even considered cleaning the floors because I don't want to address the fact that Junior High may not be 25 years ago, but may be 2.5 days ago and maybe I'm not as mature as I think. In Christ we...
how to find your identity and how not to lose it
I've shared my challenges with perfection in the last five weeks and the consequences of making an alliance with perfection has infected my identity. I'm a wife, mother, daughter, friend, writer, homeschooler, worship leader, and in each of these roles I've fallen for...
perfect brokenness perfect completeness
You know that 'thing' that threatens to break you? It's that thing you deny exists and try to run away from? Yeah, that. It's okay, you can turn around and face it. There's hope when you walk towards it and through to the other side because I've lived it. Perfect has...
stepping into grace
I'm doing a lot of confessing here and it's time for another one: I adore fall. I love the beauty in the changing leaves, the crisp temperatures, and the October blue skies. I love watching the farmers gather the crops and the glow of the setting sun on the dried corn...