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When Emotions and Lament Create Paths to Trust

by Jessica Van Roekel | May 18, 2020 | Christian Living | 7 comments

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Emotions scare me because they’re so powerful, yet render me powerless. The power of them takes me by surprise, like touching a hot pan. I yank back in defensiveness, shielding my wound. Emotions surrounding the pain of shattered friendships, lousy news, and broken trust cause me to harden my heart.   Countless times, I’ve tried to shield my heart from the extremes of emotions, but I’ve realized that if I fail to experience the fulness of sadness and anger then joy and love don’t reach their full potential.

 

God has gifted us with the language of lament in order to grow our faith, proclaim hope, and teach us love. Lament is the language of emotion, and without lament, our hurtful experiences dictate the way we interact with God, ourselves, and others. Without a safe place for expression, we withdraw or cast blame. This prevents us from the abundance that the Lord offers in John 10:10.

Exploring Emotions within the Context of the Psalms

 

Exploring our emotions is part of learning to live in the fullness he provides, but out of control emotions create consequences in our lives that lead to more regret. We shout words we can never take back, we slam cupboard doors, and we choose indifference rather than deference. A shroud of sorrow lingers over our happiest moments and we ease around that massive problem we try to ignore.

 

As Christ-followers, we are not immune to struggles. Pain, sorrow, and disappointment follow us, interrupt us, and surprise us. We understand the importance of learning the language of lament, we’ve explored the cry of help, and the confession of trust. Today, we cover the expression of pain.

 

One of the best ways to learn to express our heart’s pain is to read the Psalms as if we’re writing them. When David writes in Psalm 31:9, “Be merciful to me, O Lord, for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak with sorrow, my soul and my body with grief,” we are given the okay to tell God about our distress.

 

Psalm 31 guides us to sit with God in the pain and recognize that our emotional distress affects our physical body. When we’re weary from an emotional storm, it grows more and more difficult to make choices that honor God with what we do and say.

Let Emotions Remind us of God’s Goodness

 

When our eyes are weak with sorrow and our body wracked with grief, let’s take David’s words and make them our own. David knew distress; he felt forgotten and rejected by so-called friends. People plotted against him and he wondered when and if things would ever turn around.

 

I’ve been there, have you? As I page through my Bible, I find evidence of relating to exactly what David experienced. As I repeatedly read through the Psalms, I come to margins with scribbled dates beside them that remind me that God is my help, defender, and rescuer.

 

Learning to lament through reading the Psalms is the best way to learn to express the gamut of emotions created by the human experience. It enables us to give voice to our deepest hurts, our deepest regrets, and our deepest sorrows. Imagine the outcome if you’re able to lead your heart to hope the next time an emotional storm whips through your life.

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7 Comments

  1. Patricia Miller
    Patricia Miller on May 19, 2020 at 8:00 am

    Thank u , so on target..God’s Word always the place to go & linger..Jesus Word of God

    • Jessica Van Roekel
      Jessica Van Roekel on May 19, 2020 at 9:35 am

      Thank-you! Yes, I agree, God’s word is the best place to be.

  2. Rebecca Bishop
    Rebecca Bishop on May 19, 2020 at 9:28 am

    You really nailed this much needed relief as we all suffer in this pandemic. God is with us!

    • Jessica Van Roekel
      Jessica Van Roekel on May 19, 2020 at 9:36 am

      Thank-you so much. It’s such a comfort to know that God is with us.

  3. Christina Alameda
    Christina Alameda on May 19, 2020 at 2:11 pm

    💖⚘🔥🕊💖⚘🔥🕊💖⚘🔥🕊💖Thank You Jessica Van Roekel, ⚘Glory to GOD,” Timely message indeed. Thank You for GOD’S WORD of encouragement. And embracing my SOUL With HIS “JESUS ” LOVE. LOVE GOD BLESS and Soooo Appreciate You.” Thank You my LORD JESUS.” Hallelujah Hallelujah Hallelujah Hallelujah Takes me to, 2 Corinthians 4:6-18 💙⚘🔥🕊ALOHA Always Sister Chrissy Honolulu Hawai’i United States 💖⚘🔥🕊💖⚘🔥🕊💖⚘🔥🕊💖⚘🔥🕊💖

  4. Okocha Theophilus
    Okocha Theophilus on May 20, 2020 at 10:16 pm

    Thanks a lots. It’s soothing words and nourishing indeed.

  5. Eleanor Moody
    Eleanor Moody on May 21, 2020 at 8:01 pm

    Thank you for your timely word God is doing something He is so Mighty and soon we will see what we have been waiting for

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