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Through Him We have Hope Over Shame

by Jessica Van Roekel | Jan 16, 2018 | Christian Living

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The Problem

 

I’ve battled with anger issues off and on throughout my life, and underneath the anger lies shame. I’m ashamed when my temper gets the better of me. I’m ashamed at the words that fly out of my mouth that do more damage than a club. Words wound in ways that destroy the essence of a person. I battle anger and I battle shame.

 

We screw up or we make life-altering wrong choices. We doubt Jesus’ blood can truly clean our past.  Anger rules us.  Our enemy uses shame to keep us locked in a pit of hopelessness.

 

How do we get out of that pit? How do we exchange shame induced hopelessness for redeeming hope?  By not letting the enemy win. By not letting shame rule your decisions or dictate your actions. Let the shame you feel guide you to the redemption Christ offers.

 

The First Reason

 

Shame indicates two things: an attack of the enemy or an issue that hasn’t been dealt with. The enemy deals with generalities and the Holy Spirit deals with specifics. When you experience overall shame and condemnation, the enemy is preventing you from knowing hope. Stand firm in God and resist the devil by speaking truth over yourself. Say, “Jesus’ blood redeems me, in his name I’ve confessed my sin and I stand forgiven. God chooses me. God makes me victorious and nothing can prevail against the God’s love for me and in me.”

 

The Second Reason

 

The second problem is a little bit more nuanced. Often when shame lingers over a particular incidence, we have a forgiveness problem. Many of us are quick to ask God for forgiveness and he grants it to us. (1 John 1:9). Often we will go to the person we’ve wronged and seek their forgiveness and whether they grant it to us is between them and God, but we’ve done our part. What keeps us trapped in shame is when we don’t forgive ourselves.

 

If God has forgiven you, why can’t you forgive yourself? God doesn’t treat us with “three strikes and you’re out” so why do we treat ourselves that way? If you’ve said something you’ve regretted and you’ve made it right with God, make it right with yourself. When you refuse to forgive yourself, you reject God’s redeeming forgiveness.

 

When you reject God’s redeeming forgiveness, you rob yourself of hope. And when you struggle through, you find your way to hope.

 

The Solution

 

“Through him we have also obtained access by faith  into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”  Romans 5:2-5

 

When we wrestle through the suffering we build endurance. Endurance builds our character because we don’t give in to the easy way out of living in shame, but we battle through to victory over shame. Character produces hope because we’re changed from the inside out. Hope is an outward projection of belief and trust. And hope doesn’t shame us. Why?

 

Because of God’s love poured out into your heart through the Holy Spirit.

 

Hope Fulfilled

 

It’s God’s love that starts and ends it all, draws us to himself, and makes a way for redeeming forgiveness. That love resides in us. And when his love is flowing through us and out of us, shame has no place. Hope does.

 

Hope in God and rest in the confidence that he brings. You are forgiven. Your past is redeemed. Your love is God’s love.

 

Application

 

Memorize Romans 5:2-5

 

Consider anything you haven’t forgiven yourself for and receive God’s forgiveness by forgiving yourself.

 

 

 

 

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